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  • RamonNYC
    RamonNYC Happy New Year everyone!
    • January 6
  • Aurora
    Aurora So the guy wasn't serious afterall. Just wanted to have "casual fun" as he put it. Time to move on. Any one have any advice on how to separate the boys from the men?
    • December 11, 2011
  • RamonNYC
    RamonNYC wrote a new blog entry:
    The Power of Options
    Way back in college (during the last millenium), one of my design instructors asked us "Who has more power in a negotiation? The client or the vendor?" Most of us said "the client." Then the instructor gave us the answer which has stayed with me ever sinc...
    • October 27, 2011
  • JediJed
    JediJed So how do you know when it's time to get a divorce? 
    • October 20, 2011
    • JediJed
      RamonNYC Only after you've exhausted all other efforts to make it work. Especially if there are kids involved. Plus there's a saying "It's cheaper to keep her"
    • JediJed
      Jenjen Well in my case, we had basically fallen out of love years before. Heap on years of pent up anger about not being happy didn't help either.
      • October 27, 2011
  • smartalex
    smartalex wrote a new blog entry:
    Nine Words Women Use
    My wife's best friend (Yes, I'm married) sent this to me. Maybe as a warning. (1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up. (2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hou...
    • October 15, 2011
  • smartalex
    smartalex Haha! I hope I'm not this bad!
    • October 6, 2011
    • smartalex
      monsito And there's a problem here?
      • October 13, 2011
  • JediJed
    JediJed Why is it so many wives complain about (or nag) their husbands? 
    • October 5, 2011
    • JediJed
      Aurora Maybe I should rethink being in a long term relationship.
      • October 5, 2011
    • JediJed
      Jenjen Let me count the ways...
      • October 5, 2011
  • RamonNYC
    RamonNYC Cool article on being a single woman after 30.
    http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/25/fashion/sometimes-its-not-you-or-the-math-modern-love.html?_r=1&ref=general&src=me&pagewanted=all
    http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/25/fashion/sometimes-its-not-you-or-the-math-modern-love.html?_r=1&ref=general&src=me&pagewanted=all
    • September 26, 2011
  • youngman
    youngman Hey people, wassup?
    • September 26, 2011
    • youngman
      Jenjen Hi Younman. How young are you?
      • October 4, 2011
  • smartalex
    smartalex wrote a new blog entry:
    Is he or she THE ONE?
    Wondering if you’ve found Mr. or Mrs. Right? Well it’s your lucky day, because this test is bulletproof! So I’ve read other articles on this topic and they’re all very nice and mushy but mostly seem to be written from the perspect...
    • September 25, 2011
    • smartalex
      Aurora Thank you. This was very enlightening.
      • September 25, 2011
  • hiromi
    hiromi has just signed up. Say hello!
    • hiromi
      youngman Hi Hiromi. I'm new here. Are you?
      • September 26, 2011
  • Aurora
    Aurora Hi people. Just wanted to try this out and see what kind of responses I get. How can you tell if a guy is serious?
    • September 24, 2011
    • Aurora
      RamonNYC Ask him if he's with your for the long haul. If he can't answer that, then move on. If he is serious, this could jar him to his senses. (Men sometimes suck at identifying their feelings). If he isn't serious, then he'll let you go. C'est la vie.
    • Aurora
      Jenjen Does he take you out on Saturday nights? Have you met his friends, his family? Have you talked about a future together?
      • October 4, 2011
    • Aurora
      smartalex Hold off on sex for six months or longer.
      • October 5, 2011
    • Aurora
      monsito In that case, I'll set up our second date six months after our first.
      • October 13, 2011
  • CowGirl88
    CowGirl88 Hi everyone, so any advice on dating in NYC? And no I'm not looking for a date here. Just advice.
    • September 24, 2011
    • CowGirl88
      RamonNYC Find a cause you believe in, then volunteer at a non-profit. That way, you find someone who shares your interest.
      • September 24, 2011
    • CowGirl88
      CowGirl88 That would be great RamonNYC, but I'm a teacher, which is what I'm p***ionate about. The only thing is, in schools, the ratio of women to men is 10 to 1. Sigh...I guess I could find another cause.
      • September 25, 2011
    • CowGirl88
      smartalex Don't have them pick you up at your place. Just Meetup for drinks at some public place. That way, you can take off if it's not going well or continue if it is.
      • October 5, 2011
  • Emilio
    Emilio My girlfriend says she's ready for us to take the next step. Don't know if I am.
    • September 24, 2011
    • Emilio
      Jenjen How old are you if I may ask?
      • September 24, 2011
    • Emilio
      CowGirl88 If you truly love her, make sure you use protection, dear.
      • September 24, 2011
    • Emilio
      youngman Dude, you're so lucky! I wish had a girlfriend like that. Heck, I wish I had a girlfriend!
      • September 26, 2011
  • Jenjen
    Jenjen Hello all. I'm going through a divorce. It's very amicable. We do love each other but more as friends now. We have 5-year old. Any advice?
    • September 24, 2011
    • Jenjen
      smartalex Put all agreements and arrangements down in writing. Like a contract. I'm not kidding!
      • September 24, 2011
    • Jenjen
      youngman Listen, my parents divorced when I was 9. The worst thing was listening to my parents rag about each other. Made me feel like I had to take sides. Totally ****ed up.
      • September 26, 2011